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I see marriage as the best way for every individual to fulfill his/her needs and fill in the gaps of his/her life, personality, experience, finance, mentality, emotions, and so on. Either way, male or female, one should look for the other that will best and most likely fill gaps and fulfill needs.
Every human being is different, and every one of us has unique needs and preferences. Hence most people get married. And many are healthy happy marriages no matter the culture, religion, education and looks. Sometimes when I get some negatives thoughts that Ill never find the right person I think to my self, how did that 200 KG woman get married? How did that blind guy get married? How did that taxi driver get married? How did that poor guy afford getting married once twice and thrice?
One of the beauties of humanity is Diversity. That is how every one would find someone to suite him/her. I’m not saying the all marriages are perfect, but there is a good chance for you to find a decent wife/husband because there are so many different people.
If I am a busy hard working physician, who enjoys academic and voluntary work and plans on growing really big, I don’t think it would be a good idea to marry a busy surgeon. Someone needs to take care of my kids. I will need someone to be always there when ever I need them.
If I am a stubborn nervous bossy guy, a kind calm easy going lady will better suite me.
If I am a normal physician with no huge ambitions, marrying a physician won’t harm.
Regarding age, in my opinion there are three main factors that determine this. Maturity, finance, and education. Some guys are pretty mature when they're 18 and others act like children when they are 28. Finance is the main factor if you are a male. How will you get married and spend on your house, wife, and family when you do not have a job or enough financial support? Of course if you were born to a millionaire this is a different story. Education is a factor in some cultures. In some countries the main role of the female is to graduate from high school and get married as soon as possible. Now if that will stop her from continuing her education I disagree with this mentality in the most fundamental way. These days education is sacred. We cannot live with out it. On the other hand, if marriage will stop males from getting their masters, specializing, continuing education, I think they should give the issue another thought.
Now, what is the poor guy supposed to do until he completes his education, secures a job and has enough experience? I DO NOT KNOW. In fact, I am stuck in this phase! Probably parents, families, and societies should support the youth and help them get married. Probably marriage isn't supposed to be so damn expensive in the first place. Probably there shouldn't be all these trash erotic shows, movies, and magazines. Probably the sex-sells marketing plans should have limits. Probably education should not consume 24 years of our lives. ... I do not know.
What do you think?
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